You are learning, but have a long ways to go:
Losing is not just some random result, it is the judgment of the universe artfully attained. Not just anyone can lose -- you have a great deal of trouble achieving it, for example -- it is an approach, a mindset that must be cultivated over a long period.
To wit: in our game, we will both lose, but one of us will be less of a loser than the other.
That is the zen of losing.
