You don't like getting stalked? I just assume that I'm everybody's buddy, and somehow I'm no longer creeped out as much.
But if your concern is about other folks who made you a buddy so that they can make it easier to study/scout your team, I get what you're after. (I just posted my reasons for not wanting Trainer updates in buddy news in another thread.) But I'm not sure if notifying you that somebody made you their buddy is going to help much, and I don't think giving anybody the ability to interfere with another person's buddy list is going to be an option. The buddy list is meant to make it super-convenient for a Supporter to pay close tabs to another team of interest (friend or otherwise). As long as the Buddy List doesn't create an advantage (as I think reporting Trainer news does), what's the issue?
Don't ask what sort of Chunks they are, you probably don't want to know. Blowing Chunks since Season 4!