mric...
just some remarks on your post:
1. you have been scout yourself for one or two season, so you should be aware a scout has only acces to the info of the players he's scouting, updating and folowing himself (in this case idd one of your own players) and doesn't have acces to the whole database. He is dependent on the info he is getting from the manager himself. Players under 21y are in extra seldom good enough to be competitive in BBBL....
2. if you do not want a special scout to handle your player or have the info about the player, please
- inform your personal U21 scout if you prefer not to give further info
- inform the U21 coach or the headscout, who are able to move the player to another scout (or eventually the U21 coach himself).
3. You're never obliged to inform or give the info to the scout... Having an update for 21y olds however is very important if we want to inform our U21 coach about his available choices to make for next season. Scouts contacting players for an update at end 20y or first days of 21y is very normal!
4. losing a cup match on a CT from a lower classiffied team is something we all encounter one or another day (Joe has, I have, most mangers and several U21 coaches have.. even if some 'agreements' are made... one of the reasons i'm personally always refusing or denying such requests). It is just part of the game and can be a very good reason to try to get stronger back (focus on the regular competition and training!)
5. if you have complaints about behaviour from one or another manager, please use the 'report cheaters' page to inform GM's. Do not use forums for that!